I work with a lot of men who have broken relational trust through their use of pornography. As I journey with the individual or the couple there are many markers along the way, and even hazards. For the guys who actually show up and do the work, it is a privilege to...
It is a sad truth that the only emotion it seems acceptable for us men to have is anger. We have been taught to suppress, repress, and deny most of our feelings; particularly those seen as softer and more vulnerable. But because anger is viewed as a truly masculine...
If you’ve tried self-help books, or even marriage therapy, and found that it just doesn’t work. If you find yourself faithfully phrasing your arguments in the “I feel ______ when you _______,” kind of language. If you’ve discovered your...
The final step of relationship repair when healing from an affair isn’t so much a step, but a life long pursuit. Restoration and redemption occurs as individuals and couples apply what they learned in the first two stages to the rest of life. The process of...
As we continue with our series on healing from an affair, I must give a note of caution. Today’s subject is relationship repair. A temptation, especially for the offending partner, is to jump straight to this step in the healing process. Do not do it. Much work,...
