There is all kinds of advice on how to improve your marriage, how to connect with your spouse, and how to, how to, how to. I have never seen a how to navigate when your partner’s trauma influences your relationship. It doesn’t fit on an Instagram meme. It is hard,...
There’s something special about the beginning of the school year. The excitement of a new classroom, the potential of new friends, the mechanical pencil and the monster pencil topper. And with all of the newness, there are certain things that stay the same at the...
I often have couples come in asking Are we codependent? I bite my tongue a little bit when I hear this. The reason I hold back is because there is no such thing as codependency; well, at least not officially. Codependency is not listed in the DSM-5 (Diagnostic and...
Over and over again, I see kind-hearted men who are doing the very best they can with their relationship to their wife, and they can’t seem to get any head way. These men have spent years giving to their wife and their family. They go to work at a job they can’t...
A good apology is a complicated thing. There are numerous dynamics going on, and there is a sequence to the steps. So often our go to solution is merely saying ‘sorry.’ Sorry is toward the end of the process, not the beginning. A premature sorry feels dismissive and...
